Is the official photographer a professional. If so then make sure they’ll allow you to make photos while they are. Most pros will not allow it.
I was a commercial photographer and didn’t do weddings or work for the public but I can tell you from 55 years of experience that having other people hovering around especially with a camera or phone camera competing for your subjects attention is a HUGE PROBLEM. There can only be one photographer meaning only one director and one person demanding the subjects attention otherwise you have eyes turned, heads turned and bad photos just because someone wanted to make a few pix.
I shot a huge amount of retail fashion for ads and catalogs and have used many many models from babies to o e foot in the grave. I instructed parents if they were going to be in the studio they had to stay back in the shadows, stay out of sight and no photos and especially no coaching the models. And yes I’ve had to run people out of the studio because the can’t resist “say cheese”, “look here” and “smile”. It’s impossible to get the models attention and get their focus on what you want with distractions going on.
If the primary photographer is a professional be prepared to be told, no pictures and out of the room.
A second reason is this is their profession and how they make their living. They don’t want or need uncle Bob or cousin Betty giving their work away bumping them out of sales.
I only did commercial work and none for the public but have met people who went to their kids soccer or sports games that shot pictures for fun during the game and then took tons of prints to the next game snd gave them away. Some of the teams hired pros to shoot them and one parent destroyed their sales from that game.
Most professionals require a contract and generally say absolutely no photos during their shooting. They work as though the bride and groom belong to them and demand their undecided attention.
Don’t be offended if you’re told no photos and consider the person they hired is trying to make a living.